Over the years there have been many jokes about getting on (or not getting on more like it) with your better half’s family as well as many tales of the struggles of keeping both families happy. However, never have we heard anything as bad as this! Bride-to-be Heidi Withers seems to have no hope at getting along with her future family as her fiancé’s stepmother Carolyn Bourne sent her several emails detailing her disapproval of Heidi.
The email was sent after the couple had visited her fiancé Freddie’s family and complained about her behaviour saying it was “staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace.” She also says that “It is a high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you.”
Jeez Carolyn, don’t hold back or anything! It’s no surprise that Heidi sent the email on to her friends in disbelief, which they ended up sending on to their friends and it eventually made its way onto websites and message boards. If you thought you had a rough time with past, present or future in-laws, just be glad it wasn’t as bad as this. Mrs Bourne had accused her of poor table manners, insulting the family and also suggested that Heidi go to a finishing school branding her a prime candidate for the TV show Ladette to Lady. Definitely not a compliment!
Mrs Bourne then even brings Heidi’s wedding plans and her parents into the firing line as well. She describes the plans to wed in a castle tacky and then harshly comments on the money that her parents have by saying “I understand your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding. (There is nothing wrong with that except that convention is such that one might presume they would have saved over the years for their daughters’ marriages.)
This is going to be one awkward wedding. Not only has she offended the bride but also her family and just about every person who has read the appalling email that she sent to her future daughter in law! It won’t just be the wedding cake that will be frosty that’s for sure.
Here is an extract of the email that Heidi received:
from: Carolyn Bourne
to: Heidi withers
subject: your lack of manners
Here are a few examples of your lack of manners:
When you are a guest in another’s house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat - unless you are positively allergic to something.
You do not remark that you do not have enough food.
You do not start before everyone else.
You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host.
When a guest in another’s house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early - you fall in line with house norms.
One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie.
Been taking hints from this film have you Carolyn?